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When Life Throws You a Curve Ball

emotional mastery hope journey to health pain transition woman of valor Aug 07, 2023

I have had the privilege of walking alongside Becky for several years now. She was at a place of stepping out and making choices to live the life that she wanted when a major curveball caused all of her hopes and dreams to come to a screeching halt.

Very quickly Becky had to learn how to navigate a world that was terrifying and unfamiliar to her.

Struggling, she learned to face overwhelm with a bravery that was found only when she reached deep within her soul.

Uncertainty became the teacher that taught her to live one moment at a time, providing the ability to make it through the days ahead that held nothing but pain and sorrow.

Like Jacob, she wrestled with God, hopelessness and despair.

With Her permission, I share a part of her journey because we all need to have the freedom to work through the emotional betrayal that is felt in so many ways, and at so many different levels. This was part of my journey and this has been the journey of countless others that I have walked alongside as well.

Maybe you are that someone, or know of others, who are struggling with overwhelming life decisions. Knowing you are not alone can help to diminish the feelings of isolation and loneliness.. 

This next entry was penned from Becky's own hand.

Although our journey to being back home with the Lord begins the day that we are born, I became very aware of being on the "last leg" of this journey on December 22, 2022. It was on that day that I learned the biopsy taken on the lesion found in my colon, through a routine colonoscopy, was cancerous. The realization of this being the "last leg" of my journey home was solidified on my birthday on January 31, 2023 when I found out that the cancer was Stage 4. It had metastasized to my liver and my abdominal cavity. I turned 56 years old that day.
 I immediately went into shock. I felt like I was in a bad dream that I could not wake up from. I felt abandoned by God. I could not see a future for myself for the first time in my life. I felt like a big steel wall had come down right in front of me, and I could not see past it. All I could see was a broken heart painted on it. I felt that this steel wall was cutting me off from all of the dreams that I had prior to my diagnosis, but here I was sitting and staring at this steel wall, and sitting with me was a large group of angels. After a while I did realize that this wall was penetrable, but I was afraid to find out what was on the other side.
 I finally did find myself on the other side of the wall, after sitting in front of it for many days/weeks. On the other side I was on a bridge that was see-through. Below the bridge was a huge canyon filled with all kinds of scary things: the cancer, fear, loneliness, a broken heart, loss, anxiety, etc.
Standing in front of me was Jesus. He was holding my hands and looking into my face with a look of love that is indescribable. He said to me, "No matter what happens with the cancer, your healing has already begun". Then He said to me, "Don't look down. Just keep looking into my eyes and I will lead you forward into the future". 
Presently, I am still on that bridge with Him, facing the unknown. Sometimes I get so tired that I ask Him to carry me. He is slowly moving me forward. I still don't know where we are going, but I believe that He knows, and that is good enough for me.
Becky B.

Becky's journey isn't over yet but the last report was very favorable. If you think of her, please say a prayer. If you know of others, be the practical hands and feet of Jesus and do something special for them. If it is yourself, make sure to get the support that you need, finding those who care and can walk along side of you.

If you are someone who wants to give support but feel really inadequate to do so, know that you don't have to have all the answers. Just be a listening and supportive ear.

We all need friends, especially in our deepest time of need, and knowing that someone cares can make all the difference between having the courage to live another day or packing it in and going to your eternal home. 

Praying for them is important, but don't just pray and never let them know you care. Pick up the phone, send an email, or show up on their doorstep with a smile and a gift of encouragement or practicality of some kind.

One minute is all it takes and together, let's encourage someone in some special way, doing for them, what we'd love to receive for ourselves.



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