Imposter Who?Sep 10, 2022
Have you ever felt like you present as one person to the outside world but inside feel like another? Welcome to the world of the imposter syndrome.
Imposter syndrome is feeling like a phony in some part of your life.
You berate your performance, walk around fearful that you won't live up to expectations and/or attribute your success to external factors.
Thoughts like "what if they really found out who I am" or "I'm really not good enough", "if they only knew" fill up too much space in your head.
Imposter syndrome shows up in different ways.
- If you tend to be a perfectionist, you will judge yourself on whether or not you did something perfectly.
- Maybe you are an expert in some area but because you know there is more to learn, you tell yourself that you are not.
- You don't believe in yourself because it takes you longer to learn and doubt your natural abilities.
- You think that you have to be able to do things on your own but because you fail to do that, and have to ask for help, the lie of being an imposter sets in.
- Or, if your expectations are unrealistic, you constantly push to be the hardest worker or reach beyond everyone else and don't achieve your desired goal, you may also deem yourself a fraud.
While operating under the imposter syndrome, the mindset to achieve, preparing more and working harder is thought to be about wanting to do a good job, but is it?
If you listen to those quiet, inner thoughts, you will recognize that it is really about self-protection.
It is how you learned to survive.
So, don't judge yourself.
The problem with imposter syndrome is that
Even if you do something well, it will do nothing to change your thoughts about yourself.
In fact, the exact opposite happens:
The more you achieve, the more you will like a fraud.
This is compounded by tending to not share your feelings, struggling in silence instead.
Rather than changing your ability, it really is about changing how you think internally about yourself.
A great place to start is to ask yourself if you want to keep living this way.
Let's say you conclude you are tired of hiding.
Put it to the test by writing out what benefits you gain by operating under the imposter syndrome and then do the same for how it hurts you. Give each one a number from one to ten, ten being high, then total them and see which category carries the most weight.
The truth is, until you are ready to confront some of those deeply ingrained beliefs you hold about yourself, as much as you want to change, you won't.
That's where I come in.
Having shed my own false imposter syndrome identity long ago, I know what it is like to transition out of unhealthy coping patterns and walk in the freedom of feeling good about myself.
If you have never worked with me before and not sure you want to, my gift to you is this 50% off coupon for a one time coaching session good till the end of Sept.
Just show up knowing it's time. Together we will figure out the rest. My job is to help you to find a safe way to do so.
And if you like staying in hiding, then keep on trekking.
My only question to you would be...
If not now, when?
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